SOC FAMILY— UNTANGLING ARGUMENTS;You will write a paper identifying, analyzing, and incorporating concepts and communication patterns from class and the text (Marriage and Family: Lauer 9e) and apply them to the film Couples Arguing (1988). a. Film Sou
Due Date: 12/7/2018 Points: 200
Instructions for the Final Project:
1. You will write a paper identifying, analyzing, and incorporating concepts and communication patterns from class and the text (Marriage and Family: Lauer 9e) and apply them to the film Couples Arguing (1988).
a. Film Source: https://search.alexanderstreet.com/view/work/bibliographic_entity%7Cvideo_work%7C1784692 b. User ID: flonreviewer Password: 77justifiably582 [available for additional viewing until Nov 30th, 2018]
2. Your paper must identify one concept from each of the categories below (Static, Listening, Messages, Power, and Power Interaction), which will result in 5 total.
a. Describe the scenario of the argument, including what was said.
i. When you reference an example from the film you need to use the name or names of the person or people in the film. There is a transcript of the film included on the website, for your reference.
b. Describe and analyze the communication pattern illustrated (Static, Listening, Messages, Power, and Power Interaction)
i. Describe how the argument illustrated one or more of the communication patterns, styles, and problems below.
1. What was said and how was that an example of one of the communication problems?
c. Describe how one or both individuals tried to exhibit one or more tactics (below)
d. Describe how the conversation could have been improved, what tactic could have been implemented, and how.
i. How do you feel the outcome would have been different?
e. Note: You may use more than one example from the film to meet the question requirements.
Communication Patterns, Styles, and Problems:
1. Communication Static
a. Sender: Distractive nonverbal cues and fillers due to uncertainty of feelings
b. Receiver: Listener filters the message through own ideas and feelings
c. Media: Discrepancy between nonverbal and verbal communication
2. Poor Listening Styles a. Faker: Only pretends to be listening
b. Dependent listener: Concerned about the impression and agrees to please
c. Interrupter: Doesn’t allow the other person to finish
d. Self-conscious listener: Tries to impress the other and listens without understanding
e. Intellectual listener: Makes a rational appraisal on words, but ignores nonverbal cues 3. Corrosive/Destructive Messages
a. Criticism: Attacking the character of the partner
b. Contempt: Treating the partner with disrespect of ridicule
c. Defensiveness: Self-protection and retaliation to ward off a perceived attack
d. Stonewalling: Withdrawing from the interaction, shutting down, or checking out.
4. Types of Power
a. Coercive: Compliance is to avoid punishment
b. Reward: Compliance is to obtain rewards
c. Legitimate: Compliance is to
d. Expert:
e. Referent:
f. Informational:
5. Types of Power Interaction
a. Competitive symmetry: Couple is engaged in a situation of escalating conflict
b. Neutralized symmetry: Spouses respect each other and try to avoid exerting control c. Submissive symmetry: Spouses try to give control to the other
Tactics:
1. Antidotes to Destructive Messaging
a. Make Requests: Address the specific behavior without blame; make I-statements to communicate needs/feelings.
b. Appreciate & Respect: Identifying/communicating what you value in the other person. Attempt to understand and validate the other person’s experience/point of view.
c. Accept Responsibility: for contributing to the issue without retaliating, focusing on the problem (not right/wrongness)
d. Self-Soothe & Reengage: Calmly communicate needing space to settle emotions and to get perspective before restarting a conversation.
2. Improved Listening Skills
a. Take initiative b. Resist distractions
c. Control emotions
d. Ask questions and rephrase to clarify partner’s meaning
e. Summarize
f. Practice
Paper Requirements:
1. Length: 3-5 pages
2. Double spaced, 12 pt font, Times New Roman
3. Use in text citations (sourcing the text) and a bibliography (in any style)
